To no surprise, in this book Shetty outlines and defines “8 rules of love”. I’d definitely say this book feels most appropriate for an audience that is looking for love or looking to learn how to date. Here are my takeaways:
- It’s impossible to love others until you love yourself.
- If you do not embrace inner confidence to be yourself, then you will be enslaved to seeking validation in all forms of relationships.
- When evaluating a potential partner ask yourself, “is time with [insert name here] more fulfilling than my solitude?” Do not confuse a desire for companionship with a desire for [insert name here].
- Patterns repeat themselves until you make a change. This is your Karma in action.
- We all have different definitions of “love.” Take the time to understand your unique definition, and to share that definition with those you love.
- Trust encompasses physical, mental, and emotional aspects.
- Physical: Feel safe and cared for in their presence.
- Mental: Trust their mind, ideas, and thoughtfulness.
- Emotional: Trust their values and who they are.
- There are some things that only learned about yourself through partnership; choose partners wisely.
- Prioritize the "growing" part in "growing old together."
- Don't impose values; embody and support them instead.
- Prompts to help support your partner: What's important to you now? What do you need to get there? Is there anything I can do to help?
- In a partnership, you're on the same team; win or lose together.
- 1 + 1 = 3. You + Them + The life you create together.
- Don't lose yourself in a relationship. Know yourself and your unique purpose.
- “The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose is to give it away.”
Bonus Points: How to love others…
- Understand them; ask questions to comprehend their goals and aspirations.
- Believe in them; provide positive feedback.
- Accept them; just as they are.
- Appreciate them, both small and significant aspects, sincerely.